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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow, she stayed over ON YOUR WEDDING NIGHT? That takes the cake. [/quote]

Pretty much this if she's from a Western culture. Could be somewhat excused if she's from a very conservative family *and* from a culture (e.g. some parts of India) in which the bride does NOT spend the first night after the wedding with her husband but with her husband's female relatives and no one clued her (MIL) that it's not the done thing in the Western world.

The not spending the first night after the wedding with one's husband derives from the times when the bride did not meet her husband prior to the wedding at all, or did so only a few times in the most controlled of settings. It was actually seen as an act of consideration to the bride not to force her to spend the night with a virtual stranger right away and to have her "fulfill her wifely duties" after an exhausting day.

Strange as it may seem, this is still observed in some families. It happened to an Indian friend of mine just a few years ago. Her husband's mother and aunts loved her to bits and when, after the wedding, he tried to take her to their room, he actually got chewed out by his female relatives for being "so inconsiderate" of his new wife. They proclaimed that "the poor dear" would be staying with them that night and my friend and her husband went along with that, even if they were really longing for some private time, because there was no way not to without causing huge offense to the relatives who were showing such thoughtfulness to the new member of their family. [/quote]

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