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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks, PPs.  I will try to write it and shred it. 
The issue with me is MIL was very disrespectful and thoughtless on my wedding day. Why did she have to go through all the greeting cards, open it when it was not for her? Would you be angry if someone opens your mail? Why did she have stay over night at our house? She was a bride once, she should know we need privacy and need to rest. We would pay back the load when I had  the money but why can't she wait for a day at least?  Why did it have to be that wedding night at midnight? 
This disrespectful issue changes totally my relationship with her. Since then, it is hard to look pass things that she does but I don't like. I am trying to forget to make it better between us and not put DH in between. DH is the only child, it will be very hard for him to be in the middle, I can imagine. I agreed DH could have done something but he didn't.  :(
I guess it is normal for MIL to be like this since it wasn't just my MIL[/quote]

Lower your expectations of your relationship with her.  Forgiving her for what she did doesn't mean that you will have the same relationship with her again.  That's ok.  And it's ok to put DH in charge of his relationship with his mother.  Let him schedule visits, let him go on some without you, let him pick out gifts for mother's day and Christmas, let him send photos of the baby.  There's no reason for you to be very involved, and the less involved you are, the easier it will be to free yourself of feeling bad about it.[/quote]

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