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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why can't he stay put at your grandparents' home?[/quote]

I agree.  He's set to get it in the will once my grandmother passes away.  He lives about 400 miles away and has some idea in his head that he will sell it for $35k (it's a double wide trailer in Kentucky) because he says he wants to live near one of his kids.  I have a brother in CA, he mentioned possibly spending 6 months at his house and 6 months at mine.  I told my brother about it and it was the first he had heard of it.  He (my brother) suggested dad stay put too.

Long story short answer why he "can't" stay: he can but doesn't want to.  I guess living with us, eating our food, using our utilities, etc allows 100% of his Social Security to be disposable.  He also mentioned that he didn't want to pay $300/yr property tax.  (When he said that I felt my head explode because of my property tax in this area)

[quote=Anonymous]You need to look him straight in the eyes and lyell him, "dad, m sorry but you can't move in with us. You'll need to come up with an alternate plan."

Then every time past that when he brings it up, remind him. Keep it short, and do NOT give him reasons why. [/quote]
You're right.  I did tell him before but he still says it.  At one point he mentioned getting an apartment near me but I think he found out he would spend almost all his social security on rent and now pretends he never mentioned an apartment.

[quote=Anonymous]Just tell him no way. You're not obligated to bring toxicity into your life just because you happened to be relates to it.[/quote]

I tend to worry about things and I'm worried he will show up at my door one day "moving in" with no advance notice.[/quote]
And when he shows up, don't let him in. See, this is the point that I would have my DH talk to him
Man to man. I had a similiar father, not quite as bad, he did not try to live with us, but HORRIBLY financially irresponsible.
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