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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know I can't do anything about my nephew but it is having an impact on my child.  This is DH's family and short of limiting time with them I am really at a loss for what to do.  We follow through with consequences and I just think it stinks that my nephew has no expectations. [/quote]

ok I agree it's not your place to say something, but you can privately explain to your child why this behavior is unacceptable for your family.  You have to throw your sib and your nephew under the bus--you have to, because you are teaching your child that this is *not* ok.  And that you expect more from your children.  Yes, you can judge, and I think you need to judge and help your child learn to judge.  They need to see the comparison.  You can help them make the connection that good behavior leads to more opportunities--more playdates, etc, and your nephew's behavior leads to less opportunities--less playdates.

Finally, it may be that your nephew is on the autism spectrum, or it's some way to deal with ADHD.  We know a kid who is clearly on the spectrum and his parents give him electronics when out at restaurants etc so that they (the parents) can have a life and go to restaurants or out at all.  I remember being at a table with them, their kid just ignoring everybody and playing video games, and my kid (same age) was upset that our rules were so strict by comparison (sit at the table and talk with people).  Later I explained what was going on, and that in this situation it's ok to have different standards, etc.[/quote]

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