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[quote=Anonymous]Yeah!

The dad can tell his daughter that most boys aren't bad kids, but like any kid--or any person--they can make mistakes.  Sometimes big mistakes.

Our job as people is to help them not make mistakes, and to stand up for ourselves (and by association, them) when we're going down the wrong path.

Also remind her that in our culture, sometimes girls (and boys, too, but maybe not as often) feel like they should get boys to like them.  But the reality is, that is really NO BIG DEAL.

And then the dad can honestly recount where he made mistakes, where he did the right thing, and how he treats the women and girls in his life--and how we wants his daughter to be treated.  By everyone, boys or girls.

The DD just needs to know she has good people on her side. :)

As for birth control and stuff--well, it's okay to bring it up.  You can offer books, and also say, hey, this isn't the kind of thing that you'll probably need for awhile.  But who knows, you might have friends who do.  Here's how you can find the answers (give book) and say that you're ALWAYS around to answer any questions at all!

Personally, my parents (mostly my mom) just talked with us, whether we asked questions or not.  They were always a few steps ahead, and they acknowledged that.  I remember my parents once telling me that if I ever got pregnant, they would be willing to help me raise the child and even send us both to school (even though they were pro-choice politically).  That came totally out of LEFT FIELD (I wasn't anywhere near pregnancy-risky behavior), but I never forgot it. :)  They also asked me when I started dating--does he treat you with respect and dignity?  Do you treat him with respect and dignity?  Can you disagree and even argue without getting really mean?  Does he listen to your feelings?  Does he make you feel smart?  Those were great questions. :)[/quote]

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