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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a married, SAHM, and I feel like I am not very likeable (I have always felt that way, starting in college).  Prior to college I felt very likeable--always had tons of friends in middle and high school, lots of close friends.  I've always had success dating, but always struggled to make female friends.

I feel like I know how to be a good friend.  I show genuine interest in others, ask them about themselves, remember things they've mentioned before and ask them about it, invite people to do things, accept invitations, offer to help others without being asked, etc.

An example of how I don't feel likeable is at work.  I worked full-time pre-baby, and at my last job I noticed that even though I would stop by others' offices to say hi and chat briefly, people would rarely stop by my office to chat.  At lunch, people would invite others to eat with them, but I would rarely get invited.  Co-workers never invited me to do anything with them outside of work (I didn't invite them to do anything outside of work because I sensed they had no interest in doing so).  My boss would often stop by his favorite employees' offices to chat, he never did that once with me.  He had his favorite employees, both male and female, and would show extreme favoritism towards them.  With me, he barely looked me in the eye when speaking to me.

I'm a nice person.  I'm not sure why people don't tend to like me.  I never get invitations to do anything, whether it's a BBQ or getting together for dinner.  I invite people to do things often.  I have never been invited to a wedding or a baby shower.  How can I become more likeable?

I consider myself very outgoing, I love to talk to new people, and I am always the type to mix and mingle at a cocktail party.  However, at the same time I am more of a serious type and not very bubbly.  I also have a harsh look--when I'm not smiling I look unhappy/upset (something I've always been very self-conscious about) and I wonder if that is a big part of why I'm not likeable, but I work hard to overcompensate for that.  However, a co-worker once made a comment that my face shows very little expression (which is true because I'm more reserved) and I think people don't like me because of that.

What can I do?  I want to change.  [/quote]

Could it simply be that this area doesn't treat you well?  People here are pretty nasty[/quote]

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