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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here - he is as involved as he can be.  They were only married for two years, after first kid was born.  It was a mistake and she has always been extremely difficult to deal with.  She doesn't allow him to be involved past a certain point.  One kid is in high school and the other in middle school. He is definitely concerned, but overall I think men are able to compartmentalize emotions/issues when making decisions.   [b] I forgot to add that most of his family lives in the DC area,[/b] another reason I feel bad, though you really can't be tied to a certain place because of this. We also have two young kids together.

I know that it will be best for us to live and work somewhere that we want to establish roots but I also know that I am going to be the scapegoat for the decision and will feel guilty leaving.  The other option is to wait until the kids graduate high school, but by then our kids will be older and it will be harder to move them from their elementary school and life here.[/quote]

I'm not divorced but as a woman that basically had my biological dad not make any moves to have me in his life until I was an adult, I would say heck no.  I bolded the part about his family being in DC area because I don't have the relationships with cousins, half-brother, uncles, grandparent etc because of the lack of relationship with biological dad.  Likely the only way your DH's kids see his side of the family and your kids (their half-sibling) is by your DH being in the area.  So it's not only about your step-kids having their dad geographically present and the perception of moving to the opposite coast with his new family once his kids are finally in the same state again but your kids miss out on one side of their family and their half-siblings.[/quote]

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