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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's terrible that their mom moved away.  What an awful thing to do to kids.  I would absolutely not move away from my children while they are still in high school or younger, and I would have no respect for my husband if he abandoned his kids like that.  Just because his ex did it doesn't make it right.[/quote]

The father could have negotiated no move was allowed in custody agreement when it was hammered out, particularly if they had joint custody, which I'm guessing he never wanted or didn't get for a good reason.  This stipulation is made all the time.

He probably was an absentee father from pre-divorce.[/quote]

Not OP, but obviously you are clueless if you think that it is that easy for a father to get custody or even 50/50.  Years ago, the best dads got was every other weekend and a few weeks in the summer.  Many of those orders are still in effect as judges don't like to change status quo.

OP, in our situation with very limited contact due to the mom, I would move if it were best for our family.  If he seems them a lot and is very involved, then you have to look at the total situation.  If mom doesn't support visitation, then I would go and just be prepared to pay for plane tickets a few times a year for visits.  Reality is if he doesn't have 50/50 and just 2 weeks a month, the contact is positive for the kids but not that substantial when you look at it over a year.[/quote]

Exactly this.  And people negotiating for custody in their 20s didn't think to put no moving stipulations, nor were many dads capable of 50/50 physical custody.[/quote]

I'm 12:53.  Maybe my friend's husband was the only guy thinking of this.  Seems crazy to me that people just let their kids go like this, but ok.  And why aren't the dads capable of physical custody exactly?  They might not want to do it, but not capable?[/quote]

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