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OP, I'd not make this easy for him. I'd tell him he's free to screw who he wants, but if he does, you and he will not be living together. If he won't move out, take the baby and move out. I say this because doing it your way means he has everything he wants. He gets to be a dad when he wants to and swing when he wants to. If he goes to a swinger party, you're home to care for the baby. If he gets bored at the party, he can come home early and enjoy cuddle time with the baby. If he wants to stay at the party, well you're home to take care of the baby. It's a win-win for him. I'd also not protect him. When people ask why you broke up, tell them"John wanted to be a swinger, that wasn't ok with me, so I've left". Say it calmly, but don't protect him. I'd also suggest you mention therapy, not to resolve your marriage, but to find out why he wants to swing given that he has a family. He has a wife that loves him, and a baby that will only become more fun. He's willing to throw that away to get extra pussy. That to me suggests something is very wrong with him. I say this as someone who's marriage nearly broke up over not enough sex, so I get it sex matters to him. He shouldn't be willing to throw away his family to get it though especially with a new baby at home. I'm assuming that you are being loving and affectionate, and aren't treating him like he matters. If he says he wants to skydive, I hope you aren't saying stuff like "Those days are over, your a *father* now!". To me, it's not so much that he wants to swing, but that he chose to marry you, have a child with you, and seems incapable or unwilling to enjoy the family he chose to create.[/quote]

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