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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I am the OP of the thread this morning about my excellent house-husband and how lonely I am in the relationship.  A few years ago, before we were engaged, we broke up because he had slowly become a workaholic -- he was bringing all this work home and working 60-70 hour weeks where when we were first dating, he was essentially a 9-5er.  It's a little more complicated, but basically it was clear that he was escaping the relationship and also from some other family stressors that had nothing to do with me.

When he asked me to get back together, we had a "honeymoon period" in which he was in therapy and extremely emotionally accessible.  And then we got married and he disappeared again into a different kind of workaholism, around the house.  See where I am now with a young child with him, lonely as hell, desperately lonely, and how angry and defensive he is when I bring it up?

Maybe he just has different priorities than you.  Or maybe he's just not capable of the kind of emotional intimacy that you crave.  But I think he is very clearly showing you who he is right now.  In my mind, two people who are in an exclusive romantic relationship talk about their goals and make huge decisions like this together.  Sounds like you think that, too, and it sounds like your BF does not at all share that vision.  I think you have the information you need to make the best decision for you right now.  I don't wish on you the kind of loneliness I lead every day.[/quote]

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