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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Can you say more about why your inlaws invited your mother? Had you already told her "no" to a month-long visit?  Is she planning to just sleep there but spend most if her waking hours at your place?

Does she drive? If so, then you are within reason to put limits on how much time she spends with you each day. explain that you want alone time with your baby, to catch up on sleep, to just recharge and relax.

Do you have any other family in the area who could spend time with her? Or within a short train it bus ride, so she could make a side trip to them during the month. If you have a super-best friend, have your friend take her to lunch and take her shopping at Buy Buy Baby. It's kind of your inlaws, since presumably they are hosting her for your sake (even if it's misguided!). Don't hesitate to have your husband get involved and run interference. Lastly, if she's around so much, YOU DO NOT HAVE TO TREAT HER LIKE A GUEST! Put her to work--maybe make up a list beforehand of things she could do, like laundry, meals, etc.

Good luck, OP, and when all else fails just focus as much as you can on your new baby. [/quote]

OP here -- thanks. I am hoping she will take a side trip and drive the 4 hours to see some other family members.

I do not plan on having my mother sitting on my couch all day with her e-cigarette, staring at me while I breast feed. While setting boundaries is not always easy, the alternative is much more uncomfortable![/quote]

Oh Lordy. That sounds awful. Side note about the cigarette, "e" or otherwise: she needs to take her cigarette break outside. I totally don't understand why people use the "it's just VAPOR" excuse as a pass to smoke everywhere (dinner table, airplanes, waiting rooms). I smoke , btw (gross I know) but even I know the e cigarette thing around a baby is effing ridiculous. Good luck, OP. [/quote]

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