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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So you're not even that religious, but your main concern for your -year-old is that she stay pure until marriage? what horrible, dark corner did you crawl out of?[/quote]
Not OP, but seriously ... it's such a horrible thing for a person remain a Virgin until marriage???
Gimme a break[/quote]

Not pp, but I do think it's such a horrible thing to think having sex before marriage makes someone less pure, or impure, or has any effect whatsoever on their moral character. What a weird concept, and what a weird thing to place any significant value on. [/quote]

Sex really isn't a weird thing to place value on at all. [b]It is a form of intimacy and people have different values about when that level of intimacy is appropriate. there is an incredible range of the value people place on sex. [/b]Some place no value and have sex at any age, with anyone, at any time for any reason. Others value waiting until they are older and able to make sense of the responsibilities that come with it. Others only value sex in a committed relationship, others value sex as something shared between a married couple. You obviously are at a different spot on the spectrum than OP - and probably also on a different spot than the 12 yr old having numerous one night stands or having group sex or the woman having sex with 3 guys while married. You have your own definition of sexual morality - accept that your definition doesn't apply to everyone.[/quote]

I 100000% agree with this, which is precisely why I think it's weird to feel like you need to have control over what your child's future sex life may or may not be. Teach them to respect themselves. Teach them to be safe. Teach them to be responsible. Teach them to surround themselves with other people who respect them.  Teach them to make their own choices, whatever they may be so long as they do the aforementioned things. But don't teach them that they're going to be less pure or less worthy just because they have sex. [/quote]

No one except you has said they were less worthy or less pure just because they have sex. [/quote]

I don't look down on people just for having different values from mine. I went to college with many kids who came from very religious families, and whose parents and clergy expected them to remain virgins until marriage. Most of them were engaged by the time they finished college, to people with whom they shared more than a superficial attraction, and most of these marriages, as far as I know, turned out happy enough, although I also believe that only a minority actually waited until their wedding night for consummation.

what bothers me about OP's question is that he or she admits not being an active member of a faith tradition to whom the belief that sex should be saved for marriage is just one of the extensions of their values. Nor does OP feel a strong spiritual need to immerse him or herself in such a faith tradition. No, OP is seeking a religious setting for his/her daughter in order to keep her pure. What is worse, the young maiden in question, just waiting to be lead astray, is 6. I could maybe understand a conservative parent panicking when their child reaches the teenage years, but this kind of focus on a 6-year-old's future sexuality feels incredibly creepy to me. [/quote]

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