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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Over involved, enmeshed parents. They are doing more harm than good to their kids but often they are so caught up due to their own anxiety and own expectations, that they lose sight of what their child aka young adult needs.

The kids soon either just pull away or go underground - living one life for parents and one that parents aren't part of.[/quote]

Asking questions on an open forum does not necessarily mean that the parents are over involved and enmeshed. Some kids finish high school when they are 17 or even 16 and need parental guidance.[/quote]

Those shouting about "helicoptering" are simply projecting their own guilt about not doing enough[/quote]

If you have to go on a facebook page for students and ask a question -- in other words if your DC can't do this himself or herself -- then you haven't done enough.

Seriously, what could a parent possibly ask of other students. "Are you planning to bring XYZ?" "When will we receive information about XYZ?" "How do you prepare for XYZ?" "Should my child participate in XYZ?" ALL of these questions should be asked by the student.Every. Single. One. And if the child chooses not to or doesn't get around to it, the world won't end. Maybe he'll regret bringing something or not bringing something. Maybe he'll participate in an activity he feels he should not have or is not full prepared for something (which I doubt given how much info the schools send out.) NONE of these situations are irreversible. They are pretty typical of the muddling students do when they are first on their own. The lessons they learn from this are invaluable for their future.

There are some things parents need to know, such as payment issues. Or maybe there are health concerns. I've dealt with both by calling the appropriate offices. I certainly wouldn't post a question on the student facebook page.[/quote]

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