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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was unhappy and overwhelmed. My husband was checked out. He wanted another baby and I kept having miscarriages, the emotional fallout from which he was also checked out of. I started confiding more in a close male friend. We spent more and more time together. We slept together one time, which was basically an accident. I told my husband everything a couple weeks later and we separated, more or less amicably. He did tell everyone what I'd done, and that was hard for a while, but it was several years ago and everything is fine now.

I married the man I had the affair with. We are expecting a child next spring. He and my ex-husband will never be best friends, but they are cordial to each other and often coordinate childcare for my older child because their schedules are flexible and mine isn't. [/quote]

The problem is you not the men [/quote]

Is you husband remarried?  Person, if I could get away with it and was your ex, and would beat your new husband for what he did.[/quote]

He's in a relationship with an awesome woman. I like her and think she's great for him (much better than I ever was, even before I cheated). As for your other remark, I'm glad that my ex-husband is not a violent person. What you describe is assault, and we did what we did together. Should my ex husband violently assault me too? I'm the one who broke a vow to him, after all.

As for the above PP who says that women make excuses instead of taking responsibility, I took responsibility. To my ex. To my friends. To my family. To HIS family. I simply posted what happened and my reasons for doing what I did on this thread, because the prompt was not "wives who cheat, please expound on how fucking sorry you are." I am deeply sorry that I hurt my ex, who is a good person who didn't deserve that pain. I have apologized to him many times and have made every effort in the years since we divorced to treat him with respect and kindness. He was angry with me for a while, but he is the kind of person who doesn't really see the point of holding onto anger and vengeful thoughts. He went to therapy. I went to therapy. [b]We moved on[/b]. [/quote]

What you did to him, he will never forget and because you have a kid together, he has to be involved with seeing you until his dying days.  Plus your child knows about this.  Not trying to pile on, but you irreparably damaged other people's lives and that is wrong.[/quote]

Maybe you should go yell at the other PP who is still married and still cheating. As for how my ex feels about me and our marriage, you might be right. I really only have his word to go on. So when he tells me that he has moved on, forgiven me and is happy that DH and I are happy ([b]he sent us a wedding present, greets us both with a h[/b]ug, coordinates with DH about childcare stuff independent of me, etc.), I assume that he's telling me the truth.

People's lives are irreparably damaged in a lot of ways all the time. I don't disagree that our divorce damaged his life, mine and DD's. My point was that we have rebuilt our lives and made peace with what I did. If you don't believe me, I don't know what to tell you.[/quote]

Your ex is a beta male.[/quote]

My ex is a good person. I don't buy into that BS about alpha and beta. [/quote]

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