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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh, boy.  Where to begin.

To make a long story short, my pap last year came back CIS.  After they picked me up off the floor and we did some more tests, the final diagnosis ended up being CIN 2 but I had a LEEP anyway.  Six months later, it was CIN 3.  Another LEEP.  Things look ok for now but the gynecologic oncologist brought in because it seemed so agressive is concerned about the apparent persistent HPV.  Another LEEP is probably in my future He highly suggests I not have unprotected sex and highly suggests I not get pregnant, both because of the multiple LEEPs and immune suppression pregnancy causes.

You're probably wondering what this has to do with my marriage.  Well, DH was my first.  I waited.  He didn't.  I feel dirty and used and like I have a scarlet A printed on me.  DH sees it as no big deal and something completely treatable and that I should just live with.  You know, paps every six months more tissue burned off my cervix that kind of no big deal.  He's now pressing for a baby.  I wanted babies, lots of them and that's looking more and more unlikely now.  I'm devastated.

We've tried counseling but he's stopped going.  I'm lost.  Any advice?[/quote]

Dude, take a deep breath.  Just about EVERY SINGLE WOMAN I know has had HPV in some form or another.  Seriously.  More than half of my friends have had a LEEP or, even worse, a cone biopsy.   I had a LEEP done as a newlywed, for god's sake!  HPV is just one of those things that basically everyone out there has, so if you have ever had unprotected sex, you probably have it.  I never had any external signs or symptoms, just an abnormal pap, followed by colposcopy, followed by pathology showing CIS after my LEEP.

The bad strain of HPV that causes CIS leaves your body on its own in time.  I had DNA testing to identify the strain of HPV bc of the CIS.  I also did repeat paps every 6 months for two years and the HPV cleared my body within that time frame years. No abnormal paps ever again (Knock on wood) and it's been 15 years.  I got pregnant three times with no problems, and delivered three healthy babies.

Give the guy a break - this is all related to behavior before he married you.  Talk to your OB about getting pregnant in the future, when the HPV has cleared your body.  Also, I should add that of all my friends who have had LEEPS and cone biopsies, no one was unable to get (or stay) pregnant.    
  
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