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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I work part-time from home as an attorney.  I work year round but I happen to have three HUGE projects due in October.  I have told my DH for months that his mother CANNOT visit in October because I will be too busy with work and won't be able to socialize or make dinners etc.  And I will prob. have to work at night and I don't want company watching tv loudly (next to my office) etc.

Tonight, my DH says his mother may visit in late September/maybe early October.  I blew up.  he says I am being controlling and there is nothing wrong with having company at that time.  He completely and totally has no idea how much work it is going to take me to meet these deadline.  He said her visit is no big deal.  I say it is. He even called me a "stay at home" mother.  i said to him - I WORK!!!

I also do the vast majority of household stuff  - all kid stuff, all shoppping, all kid activities and school stuff, which is why I usually work the school hours only.

Are I overreacting?  Isn't he being a butt head?[/quote]

"Okay honey. You get full control on how this will work out. She comes in September or November or really any other time of the year as we've discussed. Or she comes in October and you and she will take care of the kid stuff, shopping, cooking, and household chores. If it's really load and uncomfortable here, I will find someplace else to work."[/quote]

Do not screw up your job because you will need it when you divorce his condescending, a$$. Maybe he is trying to sabotage you so that you are dependent on him. No way would I try to juggle all that plus a guest. I love my MIL but I would have a problem if my DH did this to me. Your DH needs to know he will have to step up and manage things while you are away at work. And I would make sure I was out of the house so that you are not expected to get stuff done. Maybe go to the library?

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