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[quote=Anonymous][quote]I already resent him and this special relationship he has with someone who loves him unconditionally. I'm not sure how to stop the resentment.[/quote]

I think you should end the relationship. Even if you did have a kid with this guy, it might not 'cure' this resentment/insecurity and then what--will you feel threatened when the daughter comes to stay and your boyfriend spends time with her rather than the baby you had together? etc? ? A parent-child relationship of unconditional love is a beautiful thing, and wholly different from romantic couple love. I find it a bit odd that you feel threatened by a 9 year old girl, who rarely sees her father.  Blended families are a lot of work, even when you don't have such feelings.

I don't mean to be harsh. I know you're in a tough spot, given your age and desire to have a child. Honestly, sounds to me like you have to decide whether to have a child, or a boyfriend (and not necessarily this one). I'd go for the child, but it does mean putting child before everything else for a while. You won't have time or energy to date for a couple years, but the "pressure" might be off, too, in the sense that you're not trying to outsmart the clock. Maybe after raising your own kid for a couple years, you'd be in a better position to date someone who also had kids.

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