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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I would cut your losses with this guy. If he turns up wanting a baby in a few months-great. If not, you are giving yourself the chance to have a child with someone else.

I would forever resent a man who did not allow me to try for a child.[/quote]

You ladies need to get over yourselves!  No one would be "not allowing you to try for a child"!  OP's man is being honest and clear about what he wants and what he doesn't and he has every right to feel that way.  He is not "denying" OP or anyone else anything.

You guys need to grow up and own that you are lucky to find an honest guy and you need to grow up and decide what his clear boundary means for you.  I agree that you would probably grow to resent him as time went on, but you should only be mad at yourself for staying with someone who told you clearly where he stood on this, and you chose him anyway despite knowing this was something you really wanted.

There are PLENTY of guys out there who would just like to OP and say "Sure, we'll have kids... in a couple of years..." and then never allow it to happen.  That does happen a lot.  But if the guy says no to more kids now, and is really clear, thank him for being honest and then go take some time and be honest with yourself.  I also ended up breaking up with my BF and then he, like a PP, got clear that he'd rather have me and a kid now than no me and a kid with someone else later.  He's now an awesome father and is glad he made that decision, even though at the time (and through my pregnancy with DD) he had a really hard time.

OP if you strongly want kids, you probably need to part ways with this guy.  Be honest with him about how you feel (since he's been honest with you), and if you haven't already told him how much spending time with his daughter makes you want kids even more strongly, you should tell him that.  But you have to own your choices and not blame anyone else for them later if you end up regretting them.

Good luck OP![/quote]

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