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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Lots of women have sexist views of men and are either just as ignorant or just don't care.

It goes both ways. [/quote]

This. It does go both ways.  Of course, those women would say they are making factual observations...and sometimes they'd be right.

As I've gotten older and more experienced, I've come to accept that there are things about men and women that are different...we are not all identical, equal and exactly the same.  Pretending otherwise is silly and living in denial.

What that means is that I've gotten more comfortable with some of my "sexist" views - on some topics, related only to some very specific traits.  There are a ton of areas in which gender or biology just don't make any difference whatsoever, and I think generally, when people speak pejoratively of "sexist" comments, they mean people who have sexist attitudes where those differences just don't exist.  But on some topics, as a general rule of thumb, those differences are real.

I'm a very progressive, liberal person; I believe in treating women fairly (eg, paying the same money for the same work, etc., etc.) and hope that someday, if I have a daughter, the world is as open to her as it would be a son.  But I also know that men and women aren't identical.  [/quote]

I'm the PP psychoanalyzing her husband in some of the other posts. His view may be something close to this. We have a daughter and are expecting a son and he's already making jokes about how we'll raise them differently. I can tell he's mostly joking but some seriousness. You do have to recognize differences in bringing up daughters vs. sons, even as you fight against perpetuating those differences (responsibility for birth control, for example, just to continue a theme - it [i]should [/i]be shared, but realistically the risk falls mostly on the girl). He would never, ever suggest that she couldn't be whatever she wanted professionally, couldn't play sports, etc., though. As you point out, sex and biology don't make a difference in those areas.[/quote]

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