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[quote=Anonymous]My mom is a lot like yours. You've received a ton of great advice. Here are some of my practical tips that I hope work for you: 
   told her my data plan doesn't allow for all the texting = no more texting w/ her (must save for DH, bro, etc.). 
   We skype most of the time, and I only have that on my laptop so it's in the evening around dinner. Lets her see my kids, cuts off a lot of the conversation with her, and, b/c it's quasi public (sometimes DH is around), limits the amount of bashing she can do. She can tell when skype is on, or we arrange it via email, so there is little surprise about it, and for me, the times she's 'allowed' to skype are defined.
  I email photos every day. I take a photo at the park, email. This makes her feel connected and me feel in control and doesn't allow her to communicate with me. 
  I try not to talk to her on the phone - we skype later. "See how we're at the park? Must watch kids." I often don't pick up but then email her a photo (she gets the time stamp bit) so she can see a teary face or kids in a swimming pool.
And, don't know if this would be helpful: I have a defined time I talk with my dad, only, weekly. That helps me keep my relationship with him and, since it's not as often as w her.
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