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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I will be the first to admit that I am fat. I'm 5'4" and 200 lbs and the thinnest I've ever been is 185 lbs. I have never really attracted men. However, I went to HYP for undergrad and then Harvard Business School for my MBA, and now make a very nice living as a consultant. I have a wide circle of friends and am very well liked, and I know I'm smart. I've never really been able to attract men, however, because of how I look and because I can't really flirt.

[b]I want to marry a man who has an Ivy League background and comes from a good family. [/b]I think that with my brains and career success and social network, I should look like attractive girlfriend material for a successful man. Will they be able to see past my weight? (Don't talk to me about weight loss - I've been down that road a million times, and now I've just decided to accept that I'm fat and the fat is here to stay.)[/quote]

There's your problem right there.

What about his personality? Do you care if he is funny? Just because he is IVY league doesn't mean he is smart. Legacies get taken in, regardless of how dumb they are.

What if he is misogynistic? abusive? unfaithful? There are LOTS of things to look for when thinking about the kind of guy you want to marry.

Frankly, I'm pretty close to your measurements and I found a great guy. He wasn't IVY league and actually  made less $ than I did when we were dating and when we were first married. Now he doubles what I make because he is in business and I teach.

You might also be sending out a desperate to marry vibe and that will chase guys away faster than your fat.

You really should seek to be friends with someone before turning it into romance. 
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