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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am not toned, unfortunately. I've been like this for as long as I can remember.

I don't care about the man's looks and would happily date a fat man. And while I am a non-white woman (won't be more specific - need to maintain anonymity and DC is a small town), I have no race barrier and would happily date an AA man. [b]But yes, I am afraid I am an elitist about his educational background.[/b][/quote]

NP here.

Well, you have reduced the pool to such a small group (Ivy grad, good family, attracted to an obese person who can't flirt), that I think you may want to either pay for a matchmaker or accept that you will probably never marry (or even really date).[/quote]

P.S. I responded to this because I'm not much of a looker, but I have a genius-level IQ (but didn't go to an Ivy, just had all my education paid for via merit awards) and I think what made me attractive to men when I was younger and dating was that I was a [i]great[/i] flirt thanks to my intellect and social prowess -- very fast with jokes, very attentive and personable, good at gauging the social situation and knowing when to take things to the next level. Ended up marrying DH because he was equally witty and fun to be with, but I will admit he's very handsome (he's the attractive one, but I'm a little smarter, so I guess it all evens out?) and we've done very well for ourselves financially and love each other very much.

So I do think smarts can make a woman more appealing. But I don't think it's a carte blanche to assume you will find a mate for whom you can check off every criteria on some list. And I don't think anyone who's socially awkward will ever have an advantageous position when it comes to dating, unless they hold some sort of trump card they don't mind being "used" for (e.g., vast wealth, power and influence, family connections, etc). [/quote]

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