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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Be careful getting involved with someone who doesn't get along with his family. 
He might turn out to be a wonderful guy who is perfectly emotionally healthy, or he might have some major issues, as stated by the PP above. Just be very cautious.[/quote]

I agree. Your boyfriend sounds SO MUCH like my ex-husband. He was estranged from his dad, and had a twisted, messy, love/hate relationship with his mom and brother. It seemed perfectly reasonable that he'd have terrible relationships with his parents, because they were terrible people.

But, to make a very long story short, he had been warped by his upbringing. He was superficially charming, and seemed to understand what he was up against. In practice, though, he didn't know how to build or maintain relationships. He hates his parents-- and is still obsessed with his crappy childhood, decades later-- but he ACTS like them. He didn't know how to be a husband or father. He treated me and the kids like his parents treated him. He got angry and blamed all our problems on me (working hard to love him and save our family) and the kids (being normal kids).

Maybe your guy is different, but I would run.[/quote]

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