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[quote=Anonymous]This is us.  We met late (my spouse's second marriage, my first, but I was 37 when we married).  My spouse had some health issues that had to be resolved so we were in our 40s when we had our kids.  Yes, twins via IVF.  We are both the youngest of 3 being 5-8 years younger than our sibs who had their kids in their 30s.  So my MIL who is 83 has one grandchild who is 22 and two grandchildren who are 3.  My parents are 88 and 82 and they have grandchildren 21, 19, 18, 3 and 3.  I am in fact old enough to be my children's grandparent.  So what?  We're happy and ecstatic to have such a family.  My parents are over the moon having new grandchildren.  For them, it's like having great-grandchildren because they had grandchildren 20 years ago.  My MIL is also so ecstatic, that she comes to visit us twice as often as she used to just to see the kids.  Yes, our parents are more limited mobility-wise, but otherwise we're a very happy family.

Yes, my dad's health is not as good as it once was, but in actuality, having new grandchildren has improved his health steadily over the last 3 years.  He was starting to withdraw from life, but now talks about making it to 100 so that he can see them graduate from high school.  And he's clearly happier.  That makes me happier.

There's an old saying "You wake up each morning and you can choose to be happy or choose to be sad.  Which are you going to choose?"  Well, you can look at it as sad or you can appreciate what you have.  I have a father whose health is better now that he has two new grandchildren and who I think I'll have around 10-15 years longer than I once thought.  I have two children who are the joy of my life and truly complete me and my family.  I had always wanted to be a parent and now am.  Yes, it's harder to be an older parent, but it's still as wonderful as it can be.  For those who only think poorly of our choices and what horrible things we've done to our children being older parents, I don't really care.  We are a happy family, healthy so far and not that different from our peers who are 10-15 years younger than we are.  I am frankly in better shape than many new parents who are 10-15 years younger than I am.  And I am significantly better off financially than those same peers.  We have our forever house instead of our starter house.  If we need to make changes in our life like get housekeepers, or lawncare service, we do it because we can afford it.  We choose to be happy, so we are.[/quote]

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