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[quote=Anonymous]DH here.

I realize these treads often get mocked by folks that have not had this experience. My first serious GF and I met very young. And we were in her words very precocious. My family never approved so we had to sneak around for a little over the year we were dating. My parents didn't approve because she was Hispanic and this was 30 years ago. In reality alot of it had to do with my Mom's socio-economic hangups. I decided to end it the Spring on my senior year of HS. Her friends and family spoke Spanish which made me feel like an outsider. I was going off to College; and being a young 18 male I admit I also wanted to see what else was out there. Well she found a new boyfriend quickly which stung and I eventually married a girl that my folks approved of - same nationality. Ironically I learned you can be culturally similar and yet still not the best fit. My first GF was intellectual, highly sexual. DW is very loving but not sexual, not intellectual.

Over the years I have been hard on my 18 year old self for breaking it off. In my heart she has always been and will always be the one. And it has been quite unfair to my DW. And over the years it probably on some level impacted my relationship and how I treated DW. The fact that we are sexually incompatible as also been a source but that gets back to the fact that I probably picked the wrong life partner. It's a bad situation and once you have children it is completely compounded. So, I do not have any answers for you. I understand completely what you are going through. I am in contact with HS GF and I realize that I look at her with rose colored glasses. The difference is I sometimes wonder if those rose colored glasses would have enabled us to weather life's storms. On the other hand, the fact that we were from two different cultures may have driven us apart. Can't stop the feelings though...

Hang in there.[/quote]

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