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They are being INCREDIBLY rude, and if your husband cannot see that, you're in a tough spot.

Your husband should tell his parents that unless they can use a common tongue when you are all together, then no more get-togethers (he can drop by to say hi every once in a while, ans speak Cantonese with them, but when you're there, you all use a common language).

It's all about your husband recognizing that his priority and his nuclear family is you and the kids, not his parents anymore.

Good luck![/quote]

Ha - ha! You have no understanding of an Asian family dynamics. Your suggestion is destructive to the family. I can bet that your race, culture and the state of your marriage is no way like the OPs.[/quote]

What a horrible attitude. I'm so glad my Korean in-laws are nothing like you. Most of them don't speak english (they all live in Korea) so yes, most conversation at DH's family gatherings is unintelligible to me. Nevertheless, they all try very hard to go out of their way to make me feel included. My MIL in particular who has has never had a reason to learn a word of English and is in her 60s, is now learning basic English vocabulary just so that we can communicate. (Usually it's adorably wrong, but then so are my attempts to speak Korean.)

OP, I feel for you, your in-laws sound like jerks. I'm sure if my in-laws spoke English they would speak it much more often in my presence. Probably not 100% of the time but they would certainly make an effort so I wouldn't feel excluded. That's just basic human decency... has nothing to do with being Asian or not.[/quote]

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