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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To those who are saying it is wrong to ask the in-laws to speak a common language- are you serious?! What is op expected to do- just sit there and be ignored the whole time?! What a ridiculous concept. I would start implementing a rule that if a common language is not used then the op's presence isn't wanted or needed so she simply won't be around them. And any children are an extention of her. [/quote]

Be careful.  In some Asian families and cultures, that's essentially saying you want a divorce.  For some Asian cultures, the younger generation is supposed to cater to the older generation, so a younger daughter-in-law who won't even learn the language of her husband and his family is considered the disrespectful one.  Whether you agree with this or not, when you choose to marry into a culture, you need to learn what you can about the culture so you go in with your eyes wide open, otherwise, it's just a big mistake waiting to happen to everyone.  You can't go and marry someone who comes from a very traditional Asian family and then expect to make all of them change to cater to your modern liberal views.  If you do, you are setting up both yourself and your in-laws for an unpleasant family relationship for many years.[/quote]

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