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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You should continue to provide opportunities to him. Well-documented opportunities. Let the failure to have a relationship with his son be on him, not because you tried to stop it from happening.[/quote]

Well documented oppotunitues for sure. At some point soon you should pettition for sole legal custody.  I did this recently and they judge asked why I waited so long. You don't want to have to count on someone who is unreliable to co-sign when you need things for your child.  It was a great relief for me.  I can do anything for my child I need to without needing permission from his father (i.e. I just got DS a passport and I didn't need a second signature or any additional forms, I just showed my court order).

That said I have not yet sought to terminate his parental rights (even though the judge thought I should) and I still give him opportunities to step up.  He wants to vists sure (never shows up but fine).  At some point in time he may decide he wants to be part of DS's life.  It that happens great but if not I don't need anything from him.

So in summary
#1 Try to keep him involved but don't kill yourself going out of your way (raising a child doesn't leave much time especially if you are doing it alone. don't waste time on him) .  If he is local tell him you'll be at X park at X time if he wants to stop by.  Small things like that.  
#2 Apply for Sole Custody (if you haven't already).  He can choose to agree and it take 2-3 hours of a lawyers time to draft the motion and file it.   Or he can not sign and you spend a few thousand to get the judget to order it w/o he consent (this is where you need to document how you have tried to get him involved) either way you are better off. 
#3 Enjoy all your time with DC.  Kids are great...but we all already know that
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