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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm fairly certain this falls into the "let it go" category, but we gave my child a name that is commonly nicknamed (think Timothy).  In the first days of life my mom asked what she should call him, I said "whatever you want" as my husband and I were still sorting it out ourselves.  Rather quickly DS became "Timothy" and not "Tim" or "Timmy" to us and everyone else.  My parents have remained steadfast in their usage of "Tim", even though its obvious they are the only ones that use that name.  I've debated before whether or not to say anything to them, but [b]as time passes it bugs me more and more.[/b]  DS is 2, not yet old enough to have an opinion or to tell them "my name is Timothy."

I suppose the generic answer would be "depends on your relationship with your parents," but I'm curious as to what others think.  I realize all this may change (or not) as he enters school in a couple of years, but that seems like a long time to put up with it. [/quote]

Why does this bug you more and more? That's the key question.[/quote]

NP, but my MIL has flat out says she hates the nickname we're using for our three week old "Timothy" and calls him what she likes, even though we correct her each time. "No, I don't like that name. I'm not calling him that." For her it's a power thing, and one I'm sick of dealing with (clearly this is not the first instance of her trying to make a situation into something else). Maybe there are some similar dynamics at play with OP?[/quote]

I would have the direct conversation, "I hear you each time telling me you don't like the name, but that IS his name, Mom. And frankly I find it insulting that the name we picked out for him is considered not good enough to use. I need to know right now, is this the choice you are making about his name?"

Shut that sh*t down.[/quote]

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