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[quote=Anonymous]OP, stay in a hotel. If your husband can't tell his parents that's what you're going to do, then you have to.

It's for your sanity - you can't be around these people 24/7 AND stay polite, right? You'll need some breaks.
It's for your child - he takes a nap, right?
It's for your marriage - it sounds like DH also doesn't like to be around his parents, but has a hard time saying no to them. It's wise then, that he tries not to visit them, but he also has to put down some boundaries, and throw the culture excuse out the window. Besides, some Americans would say it's against their culture to NOT stay in a hotel when visiting friends/family.

If you choose not to go and send DH alone, don't make an excuse unless you legitimately have one. It's fine if they know you don't love being around them. Not like "DW hates you so didn't want to come" but more like "DW isn't comfortable with how dad treats her so I told her to stay home." He should own this decision also, whatever it is you guys decide.

Sounds like they'll always disrespect your boundaries, but that doesn't give you any reason to let them - in fact, it gives you more of a reason to be firm![/quote]

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