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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What a sobering article.  I think of some of parents at my  kids 'top' private school who are constantly talking about their kids going to HYP, do or die.  I don't even want to think about what goes on behind closed doors with their kids.

I also read the comments after the article.  Though there were numerous psychological comments and one dissertation from a physician, the comment that carried the most weight with me said[b] "I have always told my girls (from middle school and beyond) there is always a way out.[/b]  You don't have to go back.  Say the word and we can change it."

Wise words.  I would also add that 'B' grades or even 'C' are  not the end of the world.  You will (not can) still be successful.[/quote]

but the parents in the article were this way too, and it didn't help. The young lady in the article clearly had that opportunity and didn't want to take it. [/quote]The young lady in the article was a 3.5 student with a heavy extracurricular.  When expectations are high all around you, it's hard to take an opportunity that although better for you personally could be perceived as giving up, letting people down.

My DC got 3 As and 2 B+ the final high school semester.  Our reaction was as if he had discovered a cure for cancer.  We made sure he knew that we knew he worked hard and did a spectacular job.  No talk of getting the B+ to an A.  He is strong in his preferred areas and we encourage that.  We also encourage that he will do well no matter where he goes, and it's just as much about the passion he has for the subjects he loves.[b]  Being cajoled and nagged about A grades opens a door for discouragement and overt stress if those grades aren't realized.
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?? There's no evidence in the article that anyone was cajoled or nagged about grades.[/quote]PP here.  My comment was general.  My reference was not about young lady being cajoled.  No doubt, though, there are so many kids who are leading to all kinds of depression.[/quote]

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