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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Nothing. There's nothing you can say. Encourage him to hang out with them one on one - group mentality is brutal and less open-minded. Encourage him to pursue his interests. And just listen to him as he bitches. You can't fix everything. [/quote]

This, unfortunately. It's not like he can go on his friends' dates with them. And if he's no good at soccer/football or whatever sport this is, he's not going to do himself any favors by being the worst player on their teams.

One-on-one sounds good. Also, I like the idea of having him invite friends to do something he likes. Maybe you could take them (can he drive yet?) to Six Flags?[/quote]

He likes playing with video games and Legos (yes Legos), but his friends have outgrown these things. He's not driving, but a few of his friends are. Six Flags would be a great idea just as long as they don't try to bring their girlfriends along.[/quote]

If he likes Legos he might like something like this:  http://www.meetup.com/NOVA-Makers/events/calendar/[/quote]

Thank you!!!! We're in Montgomery County, but this is definitely something to look into.

Small update: I took the advice from here and suggested that my son hang out with his friends individually. He called his best friend and they made plans to go out for pizza. I dropped him off (his friend met him there) and gave him enough money to cover both of their meals. When I picked my son up, he told me it didn't go as planned as his friend was texting for awhile until his girlfriend showed up and ended up joining them. He said they acted as if he wasn't there. Then they left to go to the movies. Poor kid was devastated. [/quote]

Ah ... it saddens me to hear this news. That's exactly what I would have tried to do. I've been there and I feel your pain. You'd be surprised what a good friend you can be to your son.   The next thing to do is to figure out what he likes to do. School systems usually have summer programs for acting, singing, and art. Maybe something like that during the day a short bike ride or a walk for ice cream in the evening and a drive to a beach during the weekend. Maybe a baseball game once in a while. These years seem long and painful, but they really do pass fairly quickly. Sure, that's easy for me to say, but they really do pass.  Also, once he starts driving he will be able to travel slightly farther from home to make friends and participate in a wider variety of activities. [/quote]

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