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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ok again.  Thanks everyone.  To clarify about the house, we bought during the peak, and it lost a lot of value.  We would not even get back what we put down.  In fairness, we got the down payment from the condo he bought before we were married.  We were only married for one year out of the two years he owned the condo, and it was in his name.  Our mortage now is in his name only, although the deed is in both.  To be honest, the house is the least of my priorities, and it would be very hard for me to afford and maintain alone.  Not just the mortage, but the upkeep and repairs.  Neither of us is really attached to the house really.  The neighborhood seems to be declining a little, and one child had a really horrible time getting the special ed provided at our local school.  We would probably get a third of what we put down on it if we sold it now.  I am not sure what to do with it.

I guess I should talk to a lawyer.  Does anyone know about the collaborative divorce. My husband says we would each have a lawyer but that they would work together.  Is this bogus?  Will we get something fair? I don't want to get screwed, but I don't want a big ugly battle either.  My kids don't deserve it.[/quote]

You sound eminently fair and reasonable, OP. Too much so, actually, because the fact is he is walking out on your family and trying to pay almost nothing in the process ($1500/month total!?) while also keeping your house and pressuring you not to get a lawyer who could protect you from him.

He is playing some serious hardball, OP, and you don't know how to play that game. Most of us don't, and that's why there are lawyers. Forget collaborative divorce. You need your own, non-collaborative attorney, who will advocate for you and your children, not your STBX's selfish wishes to keep the house and most of his money while sticking you with a ruinous new lifestyle and keeping his evening sports too boot.[/quote]

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