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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Guys don't have female friends.  [/quote]

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-1 Sorry.

I'm a married guy, happily married for 12 years, with quite a number of female friends.  And my wife has a number of male friends.  However, the way to ensure that this doesn't cross the line is to ensure that you don't do anything with your friend that you wouldn't be happy to tell your spouse about and to be completely open.  Your spouse should feel comfortable reading your e-mail, text or IM messages with the friend over your shoulder, not that he needs to do this, but that he should be able to do this at any time without it being a problem.  Your spouse should feel comfortable coming along anytime you are meeting this person, again, not that he needs to attend, but that he should be comfortable spending time with you and the friend and that he is welcome anytime.  It also helps if you and the male friend(s) share some activity/past-time that you both enjoy that is not a solitary activity, e.g. running partners where you are often out together alone places, can make a partner suspicious or uncomfortable and even if nothing is going on, it just makes the relationship more tense.

So, look for activities that you enjoy, especially group activities and then join a group and see if you can make friends with someone who also enjoys that activity.  Pre-kids, my wife and I were active in community theater and we met different people while doing or attending shows.  We often saw those people outside of rehearsals, productions, etc and had a lot of friends of both sexes, some married, some not.  We would sometimes see them together, sometimes separate.  Even though we've dropped out of theater for a few years, we're still friends with many of the theater friends and we still sometimes see these friends to catch up.  And it's open and above-board, we both know when we're meeting someone and neither of us feels threatened.  I sometimes joke about the guy who played her husband on stage a long time ago being her ex- and she still sees him sometimes.  He's single and I'm not really worried about her having an affair with him (they would not be good partners in any way), but he's a good friend.[/quote]

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