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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, is your DH still contacting MIL once a day? And she's ignoring it?
She must be loving this. This says to her that she's needed, and that her tantrum is working. She may be getting more attention from DH this way than she was when they were speaking. MIL wants to cause division. She would love it if DH told her that he's cut off FIL.
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OP here. Yes, DH is still contacting MIL once a day by email--sending her photos, sending her email updates, the occasional phone call.  All of which she has ignored--she will not pick up the phone (I think she blocked our number), and she ignores all emails.  I am sure she is loving this, as you say, that her silence/ignoring is causing DH to worry about her and constantly contact her to show her that he cares.

But my husband's goal in all of this is to not mention or discuss the "issue" with the card mix up and instead just pretend like nothing happened, so she knows that he has "moved on."  I'm sure MIL has not moved on and will not move on for months or years.  So he's just emailing about mundane stuff, with no mention of the issue, which is probably making her mad that he isn't addressing it, since it's showing her that he is moving on.  But DH does not want to stop contacting his mother, even though she will not acknowledge his emails/phone calls.  I don't really understand why he wants to keep contacting her.

I do believe that MIL wants to cause division in the family--she is estranged from her own daughter because the daughter wanted a relationship with FIL, and so MIL has no relationship with her daughter and has not spoken to her in 15 years.  And she often asks my husband if he has any relationship with his sister, and she would be mad if she found out he did (which he does not because his sister is not interested in a relationship).

[b]The family is just incredibly dysfunctional.  It used to bother me, but now I just ignore all of them[/b].[/quote]
OP, no disrespect, but if you think you can ignore this level of dysfunction you are just as crazy as they are. This is what your kids see - it is what they will learn. You have to deal with it.[/quote]

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