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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Okay, how else to we make it crystal clear to our son that WE are the parents and he is the child?  He apparently cannot remember that fact.[/quote]

He is a minor, but will soon enough be an adult. You need to gradually let your relationship transition to a peer relationship. [b]Respect begets respect. Kindness begets kindness.[/b] Authoritarian parenting doesn't work with teens (arguable whether or not it works at all; see http://www.bostonglobe.com/lifestyle/health-wellness/2013/11/11/authoritarian-parenting-parenting-with-authority/u1Zpjnbs2N1OpyY909XIaJ/story.html). Your job as a parent is to guide him to adulthood so that he can thrive without you. That requires increasing degrees of independence and responsibility.

Is he being disrespectful and rude? Is this a sudden change in behavior, or a gradual drift? If it is a sudden change, consider drug abuse as a cause. Or a mental illness. I think a gradual drift is more likely to be a symptom of adolescence.

IMHO, I think you need to sit down as a family (after you and your spouse have discussed and are on the same page) and talk about the environment you would prefer in your home. Kind and respectful. Talk about the things you do for one another to support that. Talk about what your DS can do to support that family dynamic. Talk about the social contract. Discuss and agree upon consequences for breaking that social contract. Think about what privileges can be earned or taken away (driving, electronics, privacy, etc).

Consider his nutrition and sleep habits. If either of them are lacking (and they generally are with teens), that could be a contributing factor. A factor that he is mostly in charge of addressing. [/quote]

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