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[quote=Anonymous][quote=ppmom]He likes what he does, but he hates that he has too much caseloads. He doesn't want to work for the government. He feels that he doesn't get any support from me. I have to admit that I complain about his work hours. We talk a lot, but lately he prefers not to talk about this situation anymore. [b]He said if I am not happy then maybe we should divorce. I know that deeply he doesn't mean to. He gets angry easily and he is frustrated about his job a lot. He thinks that other wives are not complaining about their husbands. [/b]

[b]I don't have time to do anything except later in the evenings after putting kids to bed. I always have to be available for him when he has to work on the weekends. And even he is not working on the weekends, he constantly looks at his phone all the times. [/b][/quote]

1. NEVER say the "D" word unless YOU MEAN IT. You need to sit down with him and ask him if he really wants a divorce. Then tell him the first thing I wrote. You both have to agree to that.
2. Is he asking other wives if they are happy with their husbands' work hours? If not, then he needs to STFU about other people. The only opinions that matter are yours and his. (You're both unhappy with the situation, so SOMETHING needs to change.)
3.Why do you always have to be available to him? Yet HE is not available to you? 
-He needs to put away the phone when he's at home. 
-He needs to find some time to spend with you and with your kids, otherwise, you may as well be divorced.
-HIRE some help. You can hire someone to babysit or clean house or whatever so that YOU are not stressed out. 
-IF he can't cut back on his hours, then maybe you can. But you need to make sure that he's not going to say he's working while you are not. Being a mother is a full time job. He's not being a father, since he's not there, so while YOU are working 2 jobs, he only has one job. Doesn't seem fair to me.

-DW. I worked with my first child but I knew it would be too much (plus the cost of child care for 2 basically negated my salary). My DH realizes that being a SAHM is a job (he has to watch the kids when I do groceries, so he understands).

I suggest you tell your DH he has the kids next weekend, so he will have to figure out something. What happens if you get sick and can't take care of the kids for a few days? 
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