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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP- Thanks for reality check. Yes, I got to make this easier for DS and all of us, not just drop him off. For the record, I've been to ILs house many times before (pre-baby) and they are lovely people whom I trust. That to me was never the issue. Do they have a strong enough bond to have a sleepover without me- despite the fact they have visited us many times? I am unsure and would feel more comfortable going there for a night with him. But DH can't go with me because of other relationship strain. this is what really hurts. [b]I risk hurting my relationship with my husband by standing up for what I think is right. but so be it.[/b] [/quote]

Dude, it's his family!  Do you really hear yourself?  Say your piece to your DH, once, but then drop it.  You can't fight this fight for him, and you can't magically make things right for him either just because you want a functional extended family.

If you push, you may come to find out personally why DH has never tried to heal the breach in the relationship.  For crying out loud, don't go stay with his parents at a house where he's not welcome. Let it go.  Focus on your marriage.  Take care of your DH. [/quote]

OP can you explain more of the backstory between DH and his sisters?  My FIL and his brother are estranged but the more I hear about it, they're just both being stubborn and neither will make a move to reconcile.

I can understand you want your son to know his extended family, and why you want to stay there the first night to make sure he's ok.  FWIW, both of our sets of parents live several states away and only see our kids every few months too, and over Facetime.  So a pretty similar situation in that regard, and they certainly don't regard their grandparents as "strangers!"  We travelled to ILs last year and left our kids with their grandparents for a couple nights, but we did stay a night to get them settled in.  They had a blast.[/quote]

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