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[quote=Anonymous]This isn't a problem of messed up cards.  This is 100% your MIL's problem.  It is not even a tiny, little bit your problem or your DH's problem.  She wields love and attention like a weapon to get what she wants, however unreasonable the demands are.  Your DH is conditioned to jump through whatever emotional hoops she demands, and has always done so.  You need to start with getting him to see that a) he can not change her, she will always be this way but also that b) he has control too.  He can choose NOT to deal with her when she is being unreasonable.  If she wants to tank their entire relationship for something so trivial, it was never much of a relationship to begin with.  Please try to get him to a family therapist (go with him at first) so he can see how toxic and awful his mother's behavior is.  Calling her daily is just re-enforcing in her mind that she is RIGHT and you both have done something wrong.  Which is not the case at all.

Good luck, this sounds hard.  But please don't beat yourself up for a little mistake.  This isn't your fault at all.[/quote]

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