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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Divorce is hard because it should not happen.  Two people enter into a contract between themselves, and in most cases God to remain together through good times and bad.  Breaking that contract is an admission of failure.  It is further compounded by the fact that the self serving needs of the parents to separate, rather than working out their differences, trumps the children's needs for a stable, loving environment with two parents setting role model of marriage and family.  (despite whatever anyone says, divorce is not the best outcome for children, the statistics and studies are irrefutable on this).[/quote]

Please stick to talking about your own shoes until you've walked a mile in mine. It's not always this simple and judgment like this doesn't help anyone, kids included. Be thankful that you've never been in a situation where you've had no choice but to divorce for the good of your kids. [/quote]

Amen. Especially when your therapist keeps pointing out all the ways your spouse's abusive behavior is teaching them it is ok and what they should expect in their own spouses. Staying together is NOT always best for the kids, especially if an abusive, mentally I'll or addicted person doesn't want to work on their issues. Sometimes you have to pick up the kids and go despite the feeling of failure and the lack of understanding why the other person won't get help they so obviously need.  These are never easy decisions and can take years to reach.[/quote]

That may be true in abusive, mentally ill, or addicted situations, but those are not the majority of cases.  In other situations, divorce is an admission of failure and breaking of a sacred contract.  Despite what you would like to believe, the statistics (google children of divorced/broken homes) show overwhelmingly that children of broken homes are much more likely to end up in jail, addicted, or divorced themselves.  Those are the facts.  Parents owe there children the best opportunity to grow up in a well balance home with two loving parents.   Work it out.[/quote]

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