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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wonder - is it bothering you now b/c you are expecting?  Do you think she'll expect you to raise your child the same way?

I would definitely not waste the language skills your husband has and get him to speak to the child in Russian.  But would maybe not do everything she did either.[/quote]
I've tried to figure out why it bothers me and [b]I think it is because using a language I don't understand just underscores the fact that they have a close bond that I do not and cannot share. [/b]
I asked her at one point why she pushed so hard for preserving Russian.  She said that it was tough at times, but it was unthinkable to her to use a foreign language with her own flesh and blood, so she made an effort to not have that happen.  
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Which will be true whether or not they speak Russian to each other.

OP, as long as they are not speaking Russian when you are around (which would be really rude) I think that you have to let this go.  Don't create unnecessary conflict. [/quote]

I agree with PP above.

OP I'm Eastern European as well.  I speak English to everyone but speak my language with my mother.  I can't imagine ever speaking to her in English when we are alone in a room.  Why?  I think they are doing everything they can to include you when you are actually around, but when you are not it's really selfish of you to expect they'd carry on in English just for your benefit.

The poster before me nailed it.  You are more bothered that they share something you don't have.  You really need to get over it.  I'm sure you share things with your mom that your husband will never be a part of.[/quote]

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