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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wonder - is it bothering you now b/c you are expecting?  Do you think she'll expect you to raise your child the same way?

I would definitely not waste the language skills your husband has and get him to speak to the child in Russian.  But would maybe not do everything she did either.[/quote]
I've tried to figure out why it bothers me and I think it is because using a language I don't understand just underscores the fact that they have a close bond that I do not and cannot share.

I asked her at one point why she pushed so hard for preserving Russian.  She said that it was tough at times, but it was unthinkable to her to use a foreign language with her own flesh and blood, so she made an effort to not have that happen.

We did not discuss how the child will be raised yet, but I am sure she would like to be involved.  She already said she will help in any way she can (but did not push).  I think Russians just have a different idea of how childcare ought to be done.  My DH's grandma lived with them till the day she died, and acted basically like his nanny, so to them it is normal and expected for the grandparent to serve the family. She has kept all of DH's old children's books, abc blocks in Cyrillic, stacks of children's songbooks with musical scores etc., "for the little ones."  That woman could run a preschool for one if she wanted to..[/quote]

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