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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What circumstances led him to start attending higher education at 30? In other words, what did he do with his life in his 20's?

Unless he has a valid reason, I can see where you are coming from.

At 30 yrs of age, a man should already be done with school and ideally be established in a decent or good career.
To be just beginning his studies and still working a low income job would mean he probably made some bad choices early on in his life.

I would need to know what happened in his 20's that led him to this point. 
Was he in jail? Was he on drugs or an alcoholic? Was he raising young children? Taking care of immediate family?

All of this would have to be considered before I would consider him a deal-breaker.

I do not mean to sound shallow, but I have tried to date men who didn't have much at 30 and tried to rationalize it and ignore it and blamed myself for being shallow, but in the end it really does show you something about their characters because usually good men don't waste their lives away like that.[/quote]

NP.  Pell grants don't cover full tuition at most schools.  There are people in this country who graduate from horrible school systems and aren't groomed to attend college on a traditional schedule.  It's conceivable he was out paying rent and bills as an adult right out of high school.  Most children of the working class take this route.  It appears that he has a plan to pursue a career.

What ethnicity/race is this guy?  OP, the point of dating is to get to know someone better, not necessarily to start vacationing with them, etc right off the bat.  You can date him and other guys.  I'm not sure of what sort of support that you're talking about, in any event, that need only to be contemplated when you're in a serious relationship.

Not necessarily. He may just come from a regular or lower income family who couldn't afford to put him through college on the traditional four year plan. I know a LOT of 20 something's, kids of police officers, teachers, firefighters, postal workers, etc. who can't pay for college these days. Maybe he specifically went part time or something similar to avoid life-crushing loans.

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That is [i]no excuse[/i].

If that is the case, then he could always qualify for a Pell Grant through the government.

OP, this is a red flag that this guy isn't motivated and if you continue to date him, he will drag you down with him and it will wear you down as well.  :cry: [/quote][/quote]

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