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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know it's petty, but I do think it's a tad odd for parents to do stuff for their kids for the parents' day holidays.  I found it particularly annoying that my MIL emailed both me and MY MOTHER on mother's day, before DH/I had a chance to acknowledge her.  It feels kind of like when someone, on their own birthday, makes a big deal about how it was your birthday two weeks ago or something.  The only proper response is "um, yeah - thanks, you too!"  And it just seems weird on a day whose purpose is to acknowledge your own mother/father, and arguably your children's mother/father (but mostly when they're too young to do it themselves, I wouldn't expect my mom to do something for my dad for father's day now, for example).

That said, I think the greeting card holidays are insanely overblown and I don't like them in general, and don't want to set a precedent in our family that gifts are required for such holidays even within our immediate family.[/quote]
WTF are you talking about ? The day is to celebrate ALL PARENTS, not just the ones who birthed you. I find it extremely weird that people take umbrage at people wishing them or their parents good wishes on any occassion. Seriously, your in-laws wished you and your MIL Happy Mother's Day and you find this reason to be upset?
Seriously?? We live in a world with so much crap and bad news and this is what you decide to get pissy about? [/quote]

Agree.[/quote]

I don't spend any time or energy getting pissed about it, no - but if specifically asked my opinion, this is what it is.  [/quote]

And furthermore, I don't think your characterization of the holiday is accurate - I think it's to celebrate your own parents and to the extent it has grown to be more than that, it's ridic.  Should I buy all my friends mother's day cards too?  [/quote]
What is ridiculous about it? No one is forcing you to send cards to anyone. Sometimes I forget to send my own mother a card, but to say you SHOULD only wish your own mom Happy Mother's Day (like it is a freaking law) -- yea -- well that is ASININE.

Mother's Day is a celebration honoring one's own mother, as well as motherhood, maternal bonds, and the influence of mothers in society. It is celebrated on various days in many parts of the world, most commonly in the months of March or May. It complements similar celebrations honoring family members, such as Father's Day and Siblings Day.

The celebration of Mother's Day began in the United States in the early 20th century; it is not related to the many celebrations of mothers and motherhood that have occurred throughout the world over thousands of years, such as the Greek cult to Cybele, the Roman festival of Hilaria, or the Christian Mothering Sunday celebration (originally a celebration of the mother church, not motherhood).[1][2][3][4] Despite this, in some countries Mother's Day has become synonymous with these older traditions.[5][/quote]

I don't see this as really relevant - I just don't think that any of this warrants your own mother giving you a present on mother's day because you are yourself a mother, to me that takes away from your celebrating her.

But everyone celebrates holidays differently - I would just prefer this not be the way it is celebrated in my family.  [/quote]

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