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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I guess when every other older adult I hear about has moved to an area "to be closer to the kids and grandkids" it makes me feel envious.  All my parents new friends who they've made in California all "moved there to be closer to the kids and grandkids."  I know that makes my parents feel awkward because they did the opposite--move as far away as possible from their kids.  It's certainly the case with much of my extended family.  But it just makes me feel like a mediocre daughter that my parents have no interest in doing that--and I feel bad for my child who won't grow up with loving grandparents around.  [/quote]

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My parents live in Florida, my siblings live in Texas and my in-laws all live in Oregon, so I understand. [/quote]

My parents moved to Orlando 30 years ago for my dad's work.  10 years later he retired and they stayed because they love it.  My MIL did move to Oregon when our nephew was 8 to be closer to her only grandchild.  He's now 22 and despite the fact that she loves our 2 yo twins, she has no intention of moving out here.  That's fine.  We still see her 3-4 times per year.  She comes out 2-3 times and we go out to Oregon once per year.  My parents come up once and we go down once per year.  So They see grandparents 5-7 times per year.

It's nice having my parents in Orlando because we go down and take the kids to DisneyWorld while visiting Grandma and Grandpa.  Double up two visits in one trip.  My parents didn't move to Texas when our nieces on my side were young (they are now 18, 19 and 21).

Stop making what your parents do about yourself.  You should have learned by the time that you were ten that the world no longer revolves about you.  They moved where they needed to enjoy their golden years.  They are in an area which has a high number of retirees/seniors and probably a lot of services and businesses that cater to seniors.  My parents always comment how much more senior-friendly Florida is than this area.  It's expensive, there are nowhere near the number of senior discounts and businesses don't cater to seniors as much.  So my parents are in a place which suits them much better here.  It's not about you.[/quote]

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