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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The way you titled your post and started out, I thought you were saying that your husband wanted her to move in with your family, but since all he wants is for his mother to continue having grandma time, I don't think you have much of a case here.

[b]Your kids will notice that grandma is rude and condensing and they won't emulate it so long as you and your husband set a different example.

You may feel less overwhelmed by your interactions with MIL if you allow yourself to be honest. When she was loudly calling those kids fat, you could have gasped in horror and said "MIL, that's so rude. Why would you say that?" You probably would have felt better after letting that out. I think that you're getting disproportionately upset about her faults because you're not allowing yourself to respond and be honest. You don't have to hold it in and bite your tongue. [/quote][/b]

Agree with this. I do find it interesting that DH and friends have such a different view of her. I do wonder if she is possibly is suffering from some kind of dementia. Try to find a time to calmly discuss this with your husband. Be ready to give specific examples of the behavior that bothers you. Try to find out if
a) She's never done that kind of thing before
b) He doesn't think it's as big a deal as you do

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