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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just say no, OP. You don't owe her anything and if you're feeling that your generosity is being abused you need to speak up.[/quote]

Agree with this. I have a sibling & SIL that are like this (or were like this until I stopped). It's one thing if people are considerate of each other and help/support each other. But if this is one-way with your sister, and you don't want to continue, then assert yourself. Just stop. Just be honest. No need to provide excuses. Say that while you live your niece/nephew, that you feel like it's getting to be a bit much and you need your sister to find different help.

Some people are takers and users and will continue to do so, and expect it, until you make your own needs explicitly clear with boundaries. Set them. Sometimes they are most needed in families.[/quote]
 
Some people are just users. Even sisters.

My sister did it to me until I put a stop to it. Then she turned around and did the same thing again with her second child. This is a perfect time to practice assertiveness. Be firm but don't come across like you're judging.

Also don't do what I did. I kept saying yes until I felt so used and disrespected that I lost my temper. I should have spoken up when it first became a problem rather than letting it slide until I got angry.[/quote]

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