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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP disregard all the I walked 5 miles in bare feet and flipped burgers through college talk unless that's what you expect your son or daughter to do in college. You know what you spend on your child for clothing, entertainment, food and transportation. Apply that formula to college and you'll come up with a corresponding allowance. The kid at Montgomery College or UMD or George Mason won't have the same expenses as the kid at Brown, Bowdoin, Bucknell or BC.[/quote]

OP here and I definitely plan to ignore those posts-although I absolutely expected them.

I'm always amazed that some parents think that creating hardship for their children is somehow better for them in the long run. In my opinion, if you have children who are doing the right thing by going to college (and likely did the right thing all along to get to that point), you should support them and do what you can to help make that time as easy as possible. Being a full-time college student requires a lot. If the children can relax a bit or work during the summer for spending money that's great. But my parents supported me during my 4 years of college without requiring me to get a job and it made that time so much easier.

There will be enough hardships waiting for our children when they graduate and go out into the real world for a job. There's no need to manufacture it for them.

That said, I do take small issue with your contention that students at some schools will need more than others. I think that for the most part, the expenses are the same. If room/board and a meal plan are provided, the name of the school doesn't matter. If anything, I'd think location matters more. The kid going to school in New York would likely need more spending money than the kid at Brown.[/quote]

I went to school in the late 80's (sigh…I'm old) and my parents sent me an allowance then. I also worked on campus and in the summers for extra money, but I went to school in an urban environment where doing just about anything cost more than friends who were in rural places. My parents always said that it was their job to "set me up for success". Although I was expected to contribute with jobs in the summer for some extras, my parents felt strongly that my concentration should be on school work. In fact, they weren't thrilled that I was working during school since they thought I should just be doing school work. I will be doing the same for my DD who is going off to school in the fall. She is there for school work and has worked very hard through her years to get where she is. I am also lucky to be able to financially support her and plan to do so while I am able. I do not plan to manufacture hardship and trouble to just make a point…of course, as she goes through school and situations change (either for her or me) we will re-evaluate how much is given (i.e. if she gets a paid internship during school then she will not need as much from me, moves off-campus, etc.).

Having said this I do not get the bi-weekly salon appointments...[/quote]

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