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[quote=Anonymous]My dad & aunt both moved to the "big city." Neither would ever move back to the place they grew up, but my dad loves to visit family and can be as down home as anyone else, while my aunt has a real chip about it that is very off-putting.

For example, she'll bring a bunch of foodstuffs that are available where she lives (but not down home) to a family beach trip, as though she's trying to make sure everyone knows what they're missing by not leaving the way she did.

I suspect she does it b/c she feels like she needs to justify her own choice, but it comes across like she's judging everyone else's -- she can't just eat grits for a week, she has to bring the specialty spread from the Upper West Side deli?

Your comment about how the road goes both ways makes me think maybe there's a part of you that, like my aunt, feels like you need them to appreciate your life now so they'll stop judging your choice.

I think you'd get a lot farther if you acknowledged you can't get [something -- barbeque, or scrapple, or whatever] where you live that's available where they live. Don't try to get them to appreciate where you are now, they don't need to like what you like to be happy that you're happy.
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