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[quote=Anonymous]Your ILs are hideously bad parents. However, this is DH's fight. Just love him unconditionally and make sure not to repeat the pattern with your own kids. Beware: your ILs will TRY to repeat the pattern with your kids (their grandkids). Keep your ILs on a very short leash! As soon as they start to favor one (usually the first born) over the others, put MIL and FIL in their place. Remind them gently at first (Not so gently after that) that if they want to see DC1, then they have to see DC2. If they want to give DC1 an expensive gift, DC2 gets one of equal value or nobody gets a gift AT ALL! I've had to do this on a few occasions and it helped remind them (and DH) that they are not my kids' family of origin. DH and I are the parents. Grandparents have a role in the parents' lives (more limited when we're grownups), but have no rights under the law. Certainly no rights to act like A$$h*les! Let DH confront his own demons (read parents) on his own time. [/quote]
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